What Is Breakup Recovery? And How Do I Know If I Need It?

I’m sure you’ve heard of a relationship or dating coach, someone who helps you navigate the dating pool and the ups and downs of an intimate relationship once you’ve found a prospective partner. 

But imagine having a coach to help you navigate life after a break-up. If you’ve ever sat down with yourself post-breakup trying to figure out what to do, then going through breakup recovery with a breakup coach may be a viable option for you. 

Now you may be wondering, what the heck is breakup recovery? And, where do I find a breakup coach? As a breakup coach myself, I get this question all of the time, because there aren’t many of us.

Women of Color facing break-ups are up against endless societal pressures to jump from one relationship to the next, causing more grief and leaving no room for personal restoration. They are bombarded with unsolicited advice about what they did wrong and how to find love again.

Simply put, breakup recovery is the work done during the period after your last relationship. The sole purpose of breakup recovery and a breakup coach is to help you make the most of your your single period.

Breakup recovery is not just so you can prepare for your next partner, instead, it focuses solely on helping you recover well and becoming the version of yourself you want to be.

Think of it as the time between when your breakup occurs and when you become your ideal person in a healthy and whole relationship. Breakup recovery is for that awkward middle season and you can be in that period for a while, years sometimes of feeling stuck and unable to find your footing.

The aftermath of a break-up isn’t something you should navigate alone. It can be devastating and they have the potential to alter your view of life, love, and relationships, especially if the relationship was something you cherished deeply. If you let them, breakups can have negative effects on your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. 

Instead of succumbing to the tough realities that breakups can bring, breakup recovery helps you identify your emotions during this time and the areas of improvement you may want to tackle while in your season of singleness. 

If you’re trying to navigate your life after a breakup, consider the following reasons for connecting with a breakup coach and starting on the road to recovery. 

A Breakup Coach Helps You Identify The Source Of The Problem 

A breakup coach, like a coach in any other field, can help you identify blind spots. Blind spots are things that may have occurred during the relationship that you may not be aware of because of your love for the other person. Think of these as red flags, whether originating from you or your partner, that could have aided in the relationship ending. 

While you may know of some of the behaviors that hindered the relationship from continuing, a breakup coach is an unbiased outsider. They can identify the root of a problem and offer tips and their skills to move forward.  

Breakup Recovery Closes The Door To Toxic Cycles 

Without proper breakup recovery techniques, you can resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms including overworking, unsatisfying sex, and drastic superficial changes on the outside that don’t address the issues on the inside. These can leave you in the same place you began because they don’t solve the issue. Instead, they just help numb the difficulties of a breakup. Breakup recovery, in addition to helping you identify red flags, gives you the tools to turn away from toxicity. 

Instead, you need the space to grieve the relationship while having an actionable plan for becoming a better version of yourself.   

Breakup Recovery Offers Sisterhood & Support 

One of the common feelings that people experience when they go through a breakup is loneliness. This may be because the person they’ve established a routine with is no longer a part of their life. This shouldn’t stop you from creating new bonds. In fact, it should encourage you to seek out new, healthier bonds with other people. 

A part of breakup recovery is finding a supportive community that understands the season of life you’re navigating. Support from others can be an encouragement when you feel down about your breakup. A group of girlfriends can also help you have a good time instead of settling into a dark place. At Her Soul Supply, we believe Women of Color deserve to heal in spaces with women who look like them, not places that remind them of how they feel in the workplace- a token.

That’s what we do at Her Soul Supply

Her Soul Supply is a haven for Black and Brown women seeking lasting change. Through individual and group coaching and transformative retreats, we foster a community of like-minded women who understand your unique journey. We believe true healing comes from breaking away from systems that undermine your worth. At Her Soul Supply, we offer more than an escape; we provide the tools for lasting transformation, empowering you to live a life of peace, freedom, and confidence.

You can learn more about the ways I can immediately support you here. Also, you can join the Her Soul Supply Facebook group here.